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What Do People Say When You Are Depressed?

People say all kinds of things when they discover you are suffering from depression. Here are some unhelpful things you might here. “There is always someone who is in worse shape than you are.” Depression is not a competition. Comparing illnesses only induces guilt. Yes, others are hurting. But that is not the point. Don’t discount your illness and its effect on you and others. “You are just sad.” No. Depression is more than sadness. We all are sad at times but depression is a disease. Depression effects physical health such as, sleeping habits, brain chemistry, appetite, and the slowing down of speech and actions. Oppressive negative thoughts accompany depression. Depression effects your spirit. You may lose meaning in life. You may question your faith and prayer life. Depression is a disease that effects your whole life. It is far more than sadness. “Cheer up! Have happy thoughts.” Negative thoughts overtake the sense of joy or cheerfulness that you once had. Why does this happen? No one knows. It may be brain chemistry, a genetic dysfunction, electrical impulse that have created patterns of thinking that are negative, or even tragic events may have induced a depressive state. No one wants…

How To Manage Thoughts Of Shame

The other day I answered the phone and was greeted with, “This is a phone call like you have never heard before. My name is Jim and I can tell you how to make the cash roll in!” I hung up. Get rich schemes abound. Manipulative people take advantage of you for their gain. Are you being conned by the master manipulator, depression? Depression twists your thinking,convincing you of lies that cause shame. Shame takes your life and feeds your depression. Shame is a set of beliefs that you are defective, worthless, that you deserve misery. Some of these thoughts may ruminate in both our conscious and unconscious mind.  These thoughts may include:  I’m stupid. I’m unattractive. I’m a failure. I’m a bad person.I’m selfish. I just don’t have what it takes. I hate myself.I don’t matter. I’m defective. I shouldn’t have been born. I’m unlovable. These automatic thoughts steal from you and feed depression, worsening its hold on our lives. Depressive illness may bring on these thoughts. We can then be manipulated making depression worse. How can we manage these thoughts of shame? The acrostic SHAME can be a pattern for breaking this downward shame cycle. S—Support groups. You…