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Month: October 2017

Halloween Is Not A Time To Stigmatize Mental Illness

“Come quick it’s an emergency,” our 7 year old grandson said. He has a three year old brother and immediately we wondered what happened. With two active little boys you don’t know what will happen when you look away for a moment. “Come quick it is an emergency, follow me!”  “What is the emergency!”  “Quick we have to save the world.” With relief we followed and proceeded to save the world from “bad guys.” (You can relax we battled evil and won.) For Halloween the boys will be wearing costumes of Ironman and Captain America. For a few moments they will get to put on “courage”, “boldness.” and a desire to “save the world.” They will have fun dressing up for family members and I’m sure they will have a sugar high continuing into the following day, although their mother rations the candy. (As a grandfather there is no one to ration my candy intake!) Halloween can be fun, trying on an alter-ego and deciding which candy to eat first. But some costumes, most of which are adult costumes, can be offensive to those of us who suffer mental illness. Costumes like “psycho schizophrenic murderer”, the Psycho nurse, “Gone Mental,”…

How Do We Learn To Forgive?

A billionaire collected live alligators. (Billionaires have strange hobbies.) He kept them in the pool at the back of his mansion. He decided to throw a party, and during the party announced, “I will give twenty-million dollars or the vice-presidency in my company to the man who can swim across this pool full of alligators. “ Suddenly there was a loud splash. The crowd cheered a man on as he made it to the other side unharmed. The billionaire said, “That was incredible! I didn’t think it could be done! Do you want the the vice-presidency or the money?” The guy says, I just want the person who PUSHED me into the WATER!!! Who pushed you into your pit of alligators? We all have hurts. People who have abused, betrayed, or cursed us. How can we learn to forgive? The first thing to decide: do we want revenge more than forgiveness? Do you prefer hurting more than healing? Sometimes we don’t want to be emotionally free from the pain of the past. Forgiveness begins with God’s strength. Your ability to forgive comes from having experienced the forgiveness of God. Jesus teaches us the process of forgiveness in Luke 6:27-28 ”But…

What Do People Say When You Are Depressed?

People say all kinds of things when they discover you are suffering from depression. Here are some unhelpful things you might here. “There is always someone who is in worse shape than you are.” Depression is not a competition. Comparing illnesses only induces guilt. Yes, others are hurting. But that is not the point. Don’t discount your illness and its effect on you and others. “You are just sad.” No. Depression is more than sadness. We all are sad at times but depression is a disease. Depression effects physical health such as, sleeping habits, brain chemistry, appetite, and the slowing down of speech and actions. Oppressive negative thoughts accompany depression. Depression effects your spirit. You may lose meaning in life. You may question your faith and prayer life. Depression is a disease that effects your whole life. It is far more than sadness. “Cheer up! Have happy thoughts.” Negative thoughts overtake the sense of joy or cheerfulness that you once had. Why does this happen? No one knows. It may be brain chemistry, a genetic dysfunction, electrical impulse that have created patterns of thinking that are negative, or even tragic events may have induced a depressive state. No one wants…

All Shook Up!

All Shook Up! Remember the Elvis song, “All shook up”?  “I’m in love…I’m all shook up.” Leaders of all kinds are seemingly wanting us to be “All Shook Up”…but not because of love. Tweets start twittering tongues from news sources, and social media. There is no love in tweets from celebrities, politicians, or friends. There are real threats and false threats, genuine news, and “false truth’s”. Molehills are made to look like mountains and mountains ignored. There is much ado about nothing. And so we react instead of responding. To react is to blame or excuse, to become distant instead of drawing close, to hoard not share, to be unapproachable not approachable. The stomach churns, the hair on the back of the neck stand up and emotions take over our thinking. What does the Bible have to say about responding to pervasive fear. “Don’t be so easily shaken or alarmed by those who say that the day of the Lord has already begun. Don’t believe them, even if they claim to have had a spiritual vision, a revelation, or a letter supposedly from us.” 2 Thessalonians 2:2 First, who is the person telling you about the future? How do they…